I sometimes tell you about my father passing away just before I turned fifteen. It was hard for me to get rid of his things, even the things I didn't want to keep. My mother made most of the decisions regarding his things, but some of them, like his music collection, were up to me to decide if we should keep. I kept a lot, afraid that I would regret getting rid of them.
It wasn't until 2015 that I had the courage to start donating and selling his things. Somehow I thought that if I got rid of the things that my father left behind, I would get rid of my memories of him. It sounds ridiculous now, but at that very moment if felt like that was the case. Today, a couple of years after letting go of his things, I can tell you several things:
- Letting go of a loved one's possessions is easier than I initially thought. After letting go I felt a lot lighter and relieved.
- If you have trouble letting go, try to take a photo of the thing(s) you want to get rid of. That way you "keep it", but rather in your computer than in your apartment.
- Remember that your memories of your loved one forever will stay in your heart and mind. I really didn't need to keep my father's things to remember him. He will always be with me.