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Why I quit Facebook and what I learned
In July 2014 I decided to quit Facebook. I had just finished high school and thought it was the perfect time to quit Facebook, since I wouldn't need it for all the events related to graduation anymore. To understand why I decided to quit Facebook, we have to back up a bit.
I started my first Facebook account in 2008 or 2009, when Facebook was quite new in Sweden at least. The first year or two years, it was a fun way to interact with my friends. However, when I started high school it started to change. Instead of logging on to Facebook and feel excited for the things my friends would have written while I was offline, I felt sad. Facebook had become a place online where I felt pressure to always do things and to always be happy. 
So I quit. I deleted my account and I didn't look back. It felt liberating. It was as if I could breath again. The main reason I quit Facebook was that it made me sad and demotivated. I felt left out somehow, even though I barely knew some of the friends I had on Facebook. It was a weird online world, where people called each other friends even though they had only met once. All the posts were about how perfect their lives where. For example couples I knew had a lot of trouble with infidelity posted how happy they were - when they actually weren't. People having drug or alcohol problems posted how healthy they were - when they actually weren't. Facebook, like other social media, was a fake world to me.
I'm not saying that you have to share every struggle in your life on social media, I know I don't, but since people (me included) often post things when life's great it gives a messed up representation of people's lives. Life isn't perfect, not for anyone. Everyone experience struggles from time to time. 
In November/December 2015 I decided to start using Facebook again, because I needed it for university and NGO:s I was involved in. I told myself that I would do things differently this time. For example, I wouldn't accept every single friend request. I probably have less than 100 friends on Facebook, because I'm picky regarding who I have on Facebook. Before quitting Facebook I had over 500 "friends" on Facebook. I also decided to not spend a lot of time on Facebook. This is prevented since neither me or my friends are especially active there. 
So what did quitting Facebook teach me?
  • Don't be online all the time. You don't miss anything important. 
  • Social media is a false representation of the life people live. 
  • The best thing for me is to only have people I care about as friends on Facebook. People I don't really like shouldn't be on there. 
Have you quit Facebook or are you thinking about quitting?

Jag är fortfarande på Facebook men med få vänner. Sedan är jag med i några roliga grupper. Visst är det sant att sociala medier inte visar verkligheten och att man kan tro att alla andra lever ett så spännande liv och man själv ett så torftigt. Även ibloggvärlden kan man känna så. Det är svårt att hitta en balans så att inte ens digitala liv tar för myckettid från verkligheten.

Svar: Tack för dina kloka ord. Jag håller helt med dig. Har få vänner och engagemang på Facebook, för att få en balans.
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