15 augusti 2018
In July 2014 I decided to quit Facebook. I had just finished high school and thought it was the perfect time to quit Facebook, since I wouldn't need it for all the events related to graduation anymore. To understand why I decided to quit Facebook, we have to back up a bit.
I started my first Facebook account in 2008 or 2009, when Facebook was quite new in Sweden at least. The first year or two years, it was a fun way to interact with my friends. However, when I started high school it started to change. Instead of logging on to Facebook and feel excited for the things my friends would have written while I was offline, I felt sad. Facebook had become a place online where I felt pressure to always do things and to always be happy.
So I quit. I deleted my account and I didn't look back. It felt liberating. It was as if I could breath again. The main reason I quit Facebook was that it made me sad and demotivated. I felt left out somehow, even though I barely knew some of the friends I had on Facebook. It was a weird online world, where people called each other friends even though they had only met once. All the posts were about how perfect their lives where. For example couples I knew had a lot of trouble with infidelity posted how happy they were - when they actually weren't. People having drug or alcohol problems posted how healthy they were - when they actually weren't. Facebook, like other social media, was a fake world to me.
I'm not saying that you have to share every struggle in your life on social media, I know I don't, but since people (me included) often post things when life's great it gives a messed up representation of people's lives. Life isn't perfect, not for anyone. Everyone experience struggles from time to time.
In November/December 2015 I decided to start using Facebook again, because I needed it for university and NGO:s I was involved in. I told myself that I would do things differently this time. For example, I wouldn't accept every single friend request. I probably have less than 100 friends on Facebook, because I'm picky regarding who I have on Facebook. Before quitting Facebook I had over 500 "friends" on Facebook. I also decided to not spend a lot of time on Facebook. This is prevented since neither me or my friends are especially active there.
So what did quitting Facebook teach me?
- Don't be online all the time. You don't miss anything important.
- Social media is a false representation of the life people live.
- The best thing for me is to only have people I care about as friends on Facebook. People I don't really like shouldn't be on there.
Have you quit Facebook or are you thinking about quitting?